Monday, April 28, 2008

I'll move here, and you go there.

So much for moving to Texas to be with him more often. He left last night, and he found out today he has to stay out of town until Friday. Things were made so much worse when he was assigned a case in SLC. Yes, he is in Utah right now, 40 minutes away from where I was just living. Guess I'll be cooking for one all week. I was so excited to try out this Banana Bread recipe for him to taste.

Anyone have any tips for dealing with a S.O. who travels a lot for work?

10 comments:

Guilty Secret said...

Just try to enjoy it. The excitement will last that much longer this way :)

EthidiumBromide said...

Just learn to be independent and never expect him to be there -- that way, when he is there, it's a nice surprise, as opposed to a disappointment when he has to leave.
I'm going to be spending my first 3 years of marriage living apart from my husband (doing residency so working on weekends -- we'll see each other 5-6 times/year), so I'd definitely take someone who is based where I am but travels frequently!

Jenna said...

guilty-I think that is the perfect perspective. I do love the thought of seeing him again on Friday. The excitement probably isn't this great when you kiss him goodbye at 8 and see him again at 5.

ethidium-welcome to my blog! I think that my relationship with him would never work if I wasn't as independent as I am. I know how to keep myself busy instead of pining away after him all day long! I can't believe you are only going to see your husband 6 times a year. You guys are so brave. I will try to remember situations like yours when I want to complain from now on!

EthidiumBromide said...

Jenna-
I definitely wasn't implying that you shouldn't be complaining! I knew the possibility existed for our situation before the engagement (though of course, I hoped it wouldn't happen) -- but it does definitely help to know that there are other people out there in similar or worse situations to yours. I may only see him 6 times a year or so for the next 3ish years, but at least I know he is generally safe and we will talk on the phone every other day or so -- my best friend's brother was deployed to the Navy within his first year of marriage, and was only able to call his wife every few weeks.
But definitely try going into it with the mentality that he will never be around. It helps a lot. Between our schedules, even when we both lived within 2 miles of each other, we would often go weeks without seeing each other. I just mentally went into it with the mentality that I didn't have a boyfriend who was in the area, so I didn't expect to see him, and then when I could -- yay!

style-ish said...

aww! I was so happy for you when I read your post about moving to the same town as him!

But as I am the one on the other side (I travel a lot while he stays at home) I don't have any tips for you. But it is hard being the one that is away a lot. I have walked along the Seine River many a time in Paris just wishing that he was there with me.

Jenna said...

styleish-Your job sounds so amazing! I know that traveling for work sounds really glamorous, and once you are really doing it it isn't really that great but it sounds so great. I know that being gone is really hard for him. No one likes living out of a suitcase.

the botticelli babe said...

Oh man, talk about having your cake and watching it fall off the plate. :(

Jenna said...

botticelli-pretty much exactly what it feels like

Erin Marie said...

My FI also travels a lot for work. For example, he was gone 3/4 weeks last month and will be gone this weekend. I agree with the others' suggestions to find your own things you are really into (find a local alumnae group, volunteer, train for an athletic event, etc., but more importantly, find ways to connect! Andrew and I like to read the same books and discuss them, occasionally watch movies together on the phone, or arrange it so that we can travel together. Sometimes I even get post cards from fun places:) Finally, it makes the time together more exciting. If you can plan ahead, schedule at least one exciting "event" each month that you can look forward to doing together.

On an unrelated note, I LOVE your venue preview. Gorgeous and unique!

Jenna said...

erin-we took your advice and planned that one exciting thing to look forward to every month!