My name is Jenna and I am in the process of planning a wedding without an engagement ring on my finger. People have labeled me as the one who everyone thinks is crazy, dragging her boyfriend into something he doesn't want. Except I am not THAT bride. Believe it or not, That Groom wants to marry me as much as I want to marry him. So we are doing things our own way. I am planning the wedding now, because I need the time, and he is proposing later, because he also needs the time. Compromises such as this are what make our relationship work.
We are an LDS couple (Mormon) and I from Washington state while he hails from Poland. He is a gorgeous European and I love listening for the hint of an accent he lets slip through when he isn't paying close enough attention. The way he says "girlfriend" is just adorable. After we get married we will be living in Texas for about 2 years and then who knows what will happen after that. Eventually we will end up in Poland. We've been together for almost a year now, and although we aren't engaged yet we have set a date in October because I don't want to deal with the unavailability of all my favorite vendors if I wait to start planning after he proposes later in the Summer.
We lived in the same building 2 years ago, and after we started dating last May we were only able to spend 2 short months together before he moved down to Dallas and I stayed in Utah to keep going to school. I am living in Dallas now, and even though we only get to see each other on the weekends due to his work traveling schedule, it's so much better than what we did for the past year!
That Groom is as far removed from the planning process as a groom can possibly be, and he and I are both okay with that. His ambivalence combined with my opinionated nature pair up very nicely together. I helped buy my own ring (giving my input, not my money) and pretty much only requiring him to propose, show up the day of and bring a few friends and family along.
My parents are funding this entire affair so they are highly involved with the planning process and their opinions mean a lot to me. They are even willing to do things a little differently (especially compared to the weddings that are usually planned by brides in my hometown).
We have a tentative date set for October 11th. We will be sealed (an LDS religious blessing ceremony) for eternity in the LDS temple in Bellevue, Washington. We will emerge from the temple to take those awful group pictures that I can't find a way to eliminate. That Groom and I will then head off with our photographer to spend a few hours alone together taking bridals. A ceremony is scheduled for around 4:30, with appetizer hour, and a dinner to follow.
So that is a little bit about me, my situation, and my wedding vision. Please feel free to introduce yourself, and if you EVER want to discuss something wedding related leave a comment and I will be sure to reply.