Recently we, as a couple, switched over into this new realm of acceptance. I still do not have a ring, but I am no longer the only person in this relationship telling people that we will be getting married in October. It's a pretty big deal. This means, that on top of all of the other fun wedding tasks I have been tackling, I have finally started participating in every couples
I think that the whole "gift" thing is considered taboo to talk about, but come on? Who doesn't give a gift when they got to a wedding? It is expected that I will feed you and provide you with a nice time, and it is expected that you will give me something in return to wish me a happy and prosperous beginning. Let's just drop all the pretenses and admit that we all know that this is the case. Emily Post were you reading that last paragraph? I said it, I expect to get gifts from my guests. Please note the subtle wording of that sentence, the words to get inserted before the word gift really effect the meaning and I don't want you to read that and misunderstand. I don't absolutely expect gifts from my guests, as I think they are a kind and meaningful gesture (not a rite), but as tradition currently stands I expect that guest will be giving them to me. Thus the reason I create a registry.
I thought I would get some resistance from my Mom for this idea, but she is apparently right on board, which I think is great.
We have decided (and by we I mean I brought up the idea and he gave his usual, "you can do whatever you want" response) not to register in any physical stores.
The first reason for this is that ordering off the internet will hopefully encourage guests to ship packages rather than give them to us in person and expect us to find a way to pay to ship them to Texas.
(Hello to any of my future guests! Were you reading that last sentence because I really really mean it.)
The other reason behind this decision is the huge variety or products we will be able to choose from. I can shop at MOMA, Uncommon Goods, Anthropologie, and my favorite little store ever MXYPLYZYK (yes that is really the name, bookmark it now if you like it because you will never be able to google it later)
Now I have to begin finding the right website to use to create my registry.
I created a "birthday registry" for my birthday this year with wishpot, and I really liked it. They have a firefox plugin that allows me to easily add items while browsing, and a nifty little feature that allows the purchaser to hide the purchase of the time from the list creator. This is important for potential registry stalkers like myself. I will probably end up going with myregistry.com if it is just as user friendly because it looks a little more "weddingy" to me.
Does anyone have any experience with any of these sites, or with others? Any registry must-haves? Anyone going the same route that I am?
(Note that we are considering creating a junk Bed Bath and Beyond list, so if people absolutely have to go somewhere, we can just have my Mom take everything back after the wedding)