Friday, November 7, 2008

Teaser 5: Ring Ceremony

Because we didn't do a whole lot of posed, formal, portraits with our friends and family, shots of moments like this one are so special to us.

Why do I love this photo by Kelli Nicole?

1. It reminds me that it is okay to have shots of people other then the bride and groom at the wedding. Make sure and not to your photographer if there are specific people in your life that you would like to have captured!
2. The couple pictures are some of our closest friends here in Dallas, and with any luck their wedding will be the next one we attend.
3. I didn't just plan this wedding for us, I planned it for our guests. Don't they look like they are enjoying themselves?

L read our quote by C.S. Lewis from Mere Christianity, and did an absolutely beautiful job. This quote describes everything That Husband and I believe about what love should be. When our marriage becomes difficult, this is the text we will turn to in order to remind us what we are working for.
Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go. And in fact, whatever people say, the state called "being in love" usually does not last. If the old fairy-tale ending "They lived happily ever after" is taken to mean "They felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day before they were married," then it says what probably never was nor ever could be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships?

But, of course, ceasing to be "in love" need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense--love as distinct from "being in love"--is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by the grace which both ask, and receive, from God. They can have this love for each other even at those moments when they do not like each other. They can retain this love even when each would easily, if they allowed themselves, be "in love" with someone else.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise.

It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.


ka1t_lyn said...

Ok, I have to stop commenting first or it's going to look like I am blog-stalking. I swear, I'm just addicted to my Google Reader!

I love that picture and your tips. You're right, they look so happy. C.S. Lewis is such a great author, good idea to have that read!

Rachel said...

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heather said...

Such a great passage, I love that book! I may have to have my sister read it for us at some point in the celebrations :)

Blablover5 said...

I love all the pictures people took to see what was going on that I missed.

I had no idea that at one point my inlaws all crowded around the kids table and started to color til I saw the pictures much later.

Guilty Secret said...

That really is a lovely photo of your friends. And you already know how much I love that piece about marriage :)

Amy@Fiancé Meeting You Here said...

Wow, I'd never heard that passage before. I absolutely love it. It fits in nicely with a post I'm working on about life not being a fairytale! Beautifuly photos, beautiful words! I love every single detail of your wedding. You did a fantastic job.

Whitney R said...

This is beautiful.

Jenna said...

ka1t-I'm a total blog stalker as well. Don't worry, I won't judge!

Rachel-I'm actually grateful for meme's like this to pass the time while I wait for my pro-pics!